Friday, September 29, 2006

On being SWANS

My guy friends said it was logical: Men are just looking for a non-cheesy way to come up and talk to a girl, and being on crutches gave them the in. It made me more approachable. It brought out my softer side. And it apparently made men feel needed and good. One friend even recommended that I save the cast and bring it out whenever I was having a dry spell in the future.
LOL. Tell it like it is. Ha! I would have scoffed at such manipulation several years ago but after seeing 50 Bollywood flicks--hooray! Beth I'm coming for ya!--I'm beginning to think differently. This is also part of the reason I let my hair grow out. Besides giving in to the man, I'm essentially giving in to men-kind. My only consolation is that they won't see the "real me" coming unless they're very sharp and intuitive, in which case I hope said theoretical male is still available...

The quote above is from an article called "Overqualified for Love." It's posted on, a website I just discovered. It appears to be Catholic and they've got some well thought out pieces on the relationship between religion and life in your 20's/30's. The article was written by Dr. Christine Whelan, author of Why Smart Men Marry Smart Women. However, if I'm not mistaken the dear Dr. is a 29-year-old never-married herself. *sigh* Nonetheless, she has henceforth and everafter coined the term for similarly situated women: SWANS - Strong Women Achievers, No Spouse. I rather like it myself.


Beth said...

1) Congrats on 50!
2) I have many Christian friends who will be interested in that website, so I'll have to share.
3) Intrigued by the "swans" idea. My friends and I already have a cool club name for ourselves, so I'm not sure I need another, but I'm all for the concept.
4) I am sad to say that I'm not really sure smart men do marry smart women. A lot of the smart men I know seem to be attracted to stupidity - or, far worse and far more insulting, fake-pretend stupidity - you know, the women who pretend to be dumb and/or helpless and/or lost because they figure men will flock to that. And they seem to be right, which really pisses me off on a variety of fronts. Ditto for the sane men, who always seem to like the crazies.

Except one, and that's all I need. (Eye-roll at self.) (But it's totally true.)

Susania said...

In the same vein:

Women are like apples on trees. The best ones are at the top of the tree. Most men don't want to reach for the good ones because they are afraid of falling and getting hurt. Instead, they sometimes take the apples from the ground; they aren't as good, but easy.

The apples at the top think something is wrong with them, when in reality, they're amazing. They just have to wait for the right man to come along, the one who is brave enough to climb all the way to the top of the tree.

t-HYPE said...

So true Beth about only needing one. I keep reminding myself. Often.

Thanks Susania darling! It is hard to be amongst the best! ;0)